People spend a lot of time talking about safe sex or safer sex, the term I actually prefer. Sure, there are psychological and choice issues involved in safer sex practices, but what about the nitty gritty mechanics of safer sex? What does "safer" entail? Here is a brief overview of how to make some common sexual activities safer.
Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus is the act of performing oral sex on a woman. One way to make cunnilingus safer is to use a barrier to cover the woman’s vulva. A barrier can be a dental dam, a condom slit open down one side and unrolled, or even a piece of non-microwaveable plastic wrap. But, whatever you use, just make certain not to accidentally flip it over mid-act.
Fellatio
Fellatio (a blow job) is the act of performing oral sex on a man. Oral sex isn't safe sex, but you can make a blow job safer by putting a condom on your partner after he has become physically aroused, but before ejaculation. It is possible to put a condom on someone using your mouth, but it requires practice. Fortunately, it’s not that difficult to find a willing voluntee... or a banana.
Vaginal/Anal Sex
To make intercourse, either with a penis or with a sex toy, safer, use a condom. Male condoms are easier to use, but some people prefer female condoms for vaginal intercourse since they cover more of the surface of the vulva and as such may provide some additional protection. However, it’s important to be careful since it is easy to use a female condom incorrectly. Detailed instructions for how to use a male condom and how to use a female condom can be found at the links. It is also extremely important to use a condom-safe water or silicone based lubricant during intercourse. Proper lubrication not only makes it less likely that a condom will break, or delicate tissues will be damaged, it makes sex more fun!
Digital Sex/Fisting/Fingering
Digital sex doesn’t mean looking at pornography on your computer. It means using your fingers to penetrate your partner. Using gloves, or finger cots (essentially little condoms for your fingers), can reduce your risk of being exposed to any viruses or bacteria that are in your partner’s secretions. Just as with condoms, you should always switch gloves if you move from penetrating the vagina to the anus, or vice versa.
Rimming
Rimming, or oral-anal contact carries any number of potential health hazards. There is a risk of infection not just from STDs but also from intestinal bacteria. It is important to use a dental dam when performing oral-anal contact to keep yourself safe. If you don’t want to buy a dental dam, they can be made by cutting a condom down one side and unrolling it, from a latex glove, or even from non-microwaveable plastic wrap.

lol, oral sex with protection? that'd feel terrible...

Well no sex is the safest . But for real condoms are you best friend. You also need to be safe and should (both you and your partner) get tested that way you know you both are clean (condoms won't protect you from all STD's).

Anal ehh yeah better be using condoms for sure, that's just asking to get something (remember what it's for).

(11-05-2009 05:05 PM)Kandi-Raver Wrote:  lol, oral sex with protection? that'd feel terrible...

Yeah you're right oral sex won't feel as good with protection but if you don't use something you run the chance of getting something. Again that brings me back to saying both of you should get tested before having sex.

(01-16-2010 01:46 AM)ChaosCalledCreation Wrote:  Lol Non- microwavable plastic wrap? Why so specific? Hah. I can imagine oral with aluminum foil. ouch!

Interesting. I just had the same idea but with heat activated shrink wrap. Then again, constriction could equal problems. haha

well the best is use condom for safer sex

I think...................

(11-03-2009 09:10 AM)mariazero1 Wrote:  People spend a lot of time talking about safe sex or safer sex, the term I actually prefer. Sure, there are psychological and choice issues involved in safer sex practices, but what about the nitty gritty mechanics of safer sex? What does "safer" entail? Here is a brief overview of how to make some common sexual activities safer.
Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus is the act of performing oral sex on a woman. One way to make cunnilingus safer is to use a barrier to cover the woman’s vulva. A barrier can be a dental dam, a condom slit open down one side and unrolled, or even a piece of non-microwaveable plastic wrap. But, whatever you use, just make certain not to accidentally flip it over mid-act.
Fellatio
Fellatio (a blow job) is the act of performing oral sex on a man. Oral sex isn't safe sex, but you can make a blow job safer by putting a condom on your partner after he has become physically aroused, but before ejaculation. It is possible to put a condom on someone using your mouth, but it requires practice. Fortunately, it’s not that difficult to find a willing voluntee... or a banana.
Vaginal/Anal Sex
To make intercourse, either with a penis or with a sex toy, safer, use a condom. Male condoms are easier to use, but some people prefer female condoms for vaginal intercourse since they cover more of the surface of the vulva and as such may provide some additional protection. However, it’s important to be careful since it is easy to use a female condom incorrectly. Detailed instructions for how to use a male condom and how to use a female condom can be found at the links. It is also extremely important to use a condom-safe water or silicone based lubricant during intercourse. Proper lubrication not only makes it less likely that a condom will break, or delicate tissues will be damaged, it makes sex more fun!
Digital Sex/Fisting/Fingering
Digital sex doesn’t mean looking at pornography on your computer. It means using your fingers to penetrate your partner. Using gloves, or finger cots (essentially little condoms for your fingers), can reduce your risk of being exposed to any viruses or bacteria that are in your partner’s secretions. Just as with condoms, you should always switch gloves if you move from penetrating the vagina to the anus, or vice versa.
Rimming
Rimming, or oral-anal contact carries any number of potential health hazards. There is a risk of infection not just from STDs but also from intestinal bacteria. It is important to use a dental dam when performing oral-anal contact to keep yourself safe. If you don’t want to buy a dental dam, they can be made by cutting a condom down one side and unrolling it, from a latex glove, or even from non-microwaveable plastic wrap.

Well good to know all the terms now =/. Ermm obviously it would be no sex at all =safe sex. Safer sex=CONDOM/BIRTH CONTROL. Its not hard to be smart about it. As long as you have good communication with your partner!

Safer Sex is NO SEX)))

Well the safest sex is no sex at all, which was already stated above, but I think safe sex is staying abstinent, waiting until marriage. Although that is very common in this day and age, it is better. There are so many young people out here having babies who are still babies themself. I think as parents and guardians we need to stress more on being abstinent, and waiting for marriage to decrease this epidemic of teenage pregancy.