OK honestly, my friend has been completely unreasonable these days. I'm dating a guy she utterly despises, so I try to not bring him up and stuff. When she talks about him I simply keep on with the conversation and then she gets all upset with me for talking about him too much. She constantly disses him and it's quite annoying. To top everything off when she found out about my depression I believe her exact words were "I don't need that in my life right now" which of course made me feel like shit. The thing about this girl is that, she is best friends with my best friend, so if I pick a fight with her I'm afraid I might lose my best friend. Now she's telling me all how she can't take it anymore and that I would have to choose her or my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend very much and am not going to break up with him anytime soon, but if I lose her as a friend I lose everyone. I'm not too sure what to do in this situation, but basically I'm starting to be quite tired of her "me me me" attitude.

What are your thoughts?

Fuck that bitch. Honestly friends are friends no matter what. If you date someone and your friend doesnt like it they should just shut the hell up and deal with it. If a friend is willing to leave you because of someone you are dating and your bf hasn't done anything to them. Then they are immature and self righteous and you shouldn't be friends with them to begin with. Or anymore to say the least. If i were you i would ditch that friend. And explain to my other friends exactly what bitch friend said by giving you an ultimatum. If your other friends dont understand then you shouldnt be friends with them either. id rather have no friends than ignorant ones

If your friends would ditch you because shes being a bitch then they cant be great friends and theyre definitely not worth the effort.
You should stick with what you want, because you have every right to do so, and every right to be happy with your decisions.

(08-24-2009 04:13 AM)Ella Belle Wrote:  If your friends would ditch you because shes being a bitch then they cant be great friends and theyre definitely not worth the effort.
You should stick with what you want, because you have every right to do so, and every right to be happy with your decisions.

OK ella make me look dumb by saying what i MEANT to say lol. Pretty much what i was getting at is MAKE YOURSELF happy, if you arent happy you can't worry about making other people happy. So do you. And f*ck everyone else for a while. Do what makes you happy not whats going to make someone else like you more/less whatever. They can go to H-E-double hockey sticks

(08-24-2009 11:28 AM)Xaviorin Wrote:  OK ella make me look dumb by saying what i MEANT to say lol. Pretty much what i was getting at is MAKE YOURSELF happy, if you arent happy you can't worry about making other people happy. So do you. And f*ck everyone else for a while. Do what makes you happy not whats going to make someone else like you more/less whatever. They can go to H-E-double hockey sticks

Would it make you feel better if I told you that I read your post very slowly and carefully and then translated it for people like me? =)
Cos I totally did that......... yeah.

Don't let other people run your life. Do what you want to do and what makes YOU happy. If you continue to cater to other people's needs you will be miserable, and it's just a huge cause of problems later on in life if you keep up with that pattern -- trust me on this one. I've been through it and you don't want to go down that road.

Indeed. I've been through a situation like this once before. Just get rid of her as a friend, if everyone else leaves, something tells me they were never your friends in the first place. As far as I'm concerned, if your boyfriend hasn't done anything wrong, and she hates him for no reason, or something petty--dump that selfish bitch of a friend.

All person nature is different. Therefore that views are also different. You should live the life as your way. You can get the different answers but at the end you have to take the decision about it. But it is required that in your decision you should satisfy and happy about that.

Smithshn, Please be aware of the dates on threads. This is a very old thread and advice is no longer needed for this person.

I am completely agree with the notion that people's nature is not the same. So the agree and disagree can be taken place but all kinds of row between friends can be settled by common endeavor.